ʻO kahi pāʻani e aʻo i nā ʻano papa i kapa ʻia ʻo MannerIsms
He pāʻani no nā loina
Ua manaʻo paha kekahi e hiki ke lilo i pāʻani no ke aʻo ʻana i nā ʻano papaʻaina i nā keiki i ka manawa ʻaina e hiki ai iā lākou ke hōʻike i nā loina nohona maikaʻi i nā pāʻina a e ukali pū i ka mea like ma ka home ʻĀ no nā poʻe i ʻike ʻole ma mua o ia, he mea kahaha a pīhoihoi paha lākou i ka ʻike he ʻano pāʻani kēlā i ka honua pāʻani. Loaʻa i ka pāʻani ka inoa MannerIsms. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, no ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa ka pāʻani, akā ʻoi aku no nā keiki a me nā keiki e leʻaleʻa pū ana ia me ke aʻo ʻana i ka moʻomeheu maʻamau i ka papaʻaina i ka wā ʻai.
No laila, pehea i loaʻa ai ka pāʻani? ʻO Roz Heintzman, kahi wahine mai Toronto i nānā i hoʻokahi pō i ka hoʻomaka mua o 2004 iā ia i ka hale o kāna hoaloha ʻo Gillian Deacon no kahi ʻaina awakea he ʻano ʻokoʻa kā kāna hoa aloha e aʻo ai i kāna keiki i nā ʻano hana - a noi aku ʻo ia i kāna mau keiki e lawe i nā loina mai kahi enope a ukali iā lākou, hoʻokahi no kēlā me kēia pō. Ua alakaʻi kēia nānā i ka hoʻoulu manaʻo no MannerIsms. ʻO Roz Heintzman me ka mea kālepa Carolyn Hynland (ʻo ia hoʻi mai Toronto), ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e nānā e hoʻopiha i kahi āpau ma ka mākeke no nā mea āpau e pili ana i nā loina - pili pono i nā loina a me nā keiki. Ma hope o kekahi noiʻi mākeke ʻole, ua hoʻokumu ʻia kahi hoʻolālā ʻoihana, a me ke kōkua o nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana, ua ola ke pāʻani MannerIsms.
Pehea e hoʻokani ai
Pehea ka pāʻani ʻana? Hoʻokahi pahu o MannerIsms e hele mai me nā kāleka iwakāluakūmālima, e lawe ana kēlā me kēia me ke ʻano o ka hana. He meaʻono kēlā me kēia, lyrical, a maʻalahi hoʻi e hoʻomanaʻo, e like me ‘ʻAi i ka waha, ʻaʻole waha i ka meaʻai. I kēia ala, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kolohe. ‘. ʻO kekahi ʻo ‘Mabel, Mabel inā hiki iā ʻoe, e waiho i kou mau kuʻe lima mai ka papaʻaina.’. Hoʻokani ʻia ia ma luna o nā moʻo o ka pō a i kēlā me kēia pō, huki nā keiki i kou ʻohana i kahi kāleka hou mai ka puʻu a hoʻolilo i ka pāʻina e hoʻopiha ana Kaukaʻi ʻia i ka makahiki a me ka helu o nā keiki e pāʻani ana, hāʻawi ʻo MannerIsms i nā koho he nui no ka uku ʻana i ke ʻano maikaʻi. A hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho pono i ka pāʻani i kou ʻohana.
I ka pāʻani, kuhi paha kāu keiki (s) e ka uku, e hoʻāʻo i nā pepili i nā kāleka loina i hoʻokō maikaʻi ʻia. Inā makemake kāu mau keiki i ka hoʻokūkū ma waena o lākou, hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i nā makana, e like me ke keiki i hoʻohana pinepine i ke ʻano o kēlā pō e ʻohi ke kāleka no ka pō e hiki mai ana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani cumulative, me ka mālama ʻana o kāu keiki i nā ʻano o ka pō ma mua a mālama i ka helu ma kahi pepa.
ʻO ka pāʻani e hoʻēmi i ka nagging
Lawe ka pāʻani i ka nagging mai ke aʻo ʻana i nā ʻano papaʻaina. He mea hoʻomanaʻo nō hoʻi ia i nā mākua e nānā i kā lākou hana ponoʻī. ʻAe kekahi mau wahine e kūʻai nui i ka pāʻani no kā lākou kāne. ʻOluʻolu no nā keiki pū kekahi e hopu hewa i ko lākou mau mākua.
Hoʻomaʻo mau ka hui hana pāʻani e hoʻomaikaʻi iā ia ma ke ʻae ʻana i nā manaʻo e like me ke ʻano o nā ʻano ʻē aʻe e makemake ka poʻe e ʻike i ka hoʻopili ʻia, a inā paha ua piʻi aʻe kahi ʻohana me kahi ala hou o ka helu ʻana a i ʻole ke alualu ʻana i ka holomua o kāu keiki.
Ua hoʻomohala ʻia nā MannerIsms e nā mākua a me nā keiki, no nā mākua a me nā keiki. ʻO ka manawa aʻe aia ʻoe i ka papa ʻaina awakea me kou ʻohana a i ʻole nā hoaaloha, e noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻāʻo ana i kēia pāʻani kamahaʻo, aʻo a leʻaleʻa hoʻi.