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Umdlalo wesimilo
Ngaba kukho umntu owakha wacinga ukuba kungakho umdlalo wokufundisa isimilo etafileni ebantwaneni ngamaxesha okutya ukuze babonise Iindlela zokuziphatha ezingcono emthendelekweni kwaye balandele okufanayo nasekhaya. Kulungile kubantu abangazange bahlangane nayo ngaphambili, ndiqinisekile ukuba baya kothuka kwaye bonwabe ukwazi ukuba umdlalo onje ukhona kwihlabathi lokudlala. Umdlalo unalo igama MannerIsms. Ngapha koko, umdlalo usapho lonke, kodwa ngakumbi abantwana kunye nabantwana bayonwabele ngelixa befunda inkcubeko esisiseko etafileni ngexesha lesidlo.
Ke, umdlalo ubekho njani? URoz Heintzman, umfazi waseToronto wabona ngobunye ubusuku ekuqaleni kuka-2004 xa wayekunye nomhlobo wakhe uGillian Deacon kwisidlo sangokuhlwa ukuba umhlobo wakhe unendlela eyodwa yokufundisa abantwana bakhe imbeko- apho acela abantwana bakhe ukuba bakhuphe isimilo Imvulophu kwaye ubalandele, enye ubusuku ngabunye. Oku kuqaphela kukhokelele ekukhuthazelweni kweMannerIsms. URoz Heintzman kunye nosomashishini uCarolyn Hynland (naye osuka eToronto), baqala ukufuna ukuvala isikhewu kwintengiso yazo zonke izinto ezinxulumene nendlela yokuziphatha - ngakumbi isimilo nabantwana. Emva kophando olungekho sesikweni lwentengiso, isicwangciso seshishini saqulunqwa kwaye, ngoncedo lwabahlobo kunye nosapho, umdlalo i-MannerIsms wabuyela ebomini.
Idlalwa njani
Udlalwa njani umdlalo? Ibhokisi enye yeMannerIsms iza namakhadi angamashumi amabini anesihlanu, nganye inekhowudi enye yokuziphatha. Inye inencasa, inomculo, kwaye kulula ukuyikhumbula, enje ‘ngokutya emlonyeni, hayi umlomo kukutya. Ngale ndlela, awuyi kubonakala ukrwada. Omnye ngu-‘Mabel, Mabel ukuba uyakwazi, gcina iingqiniba zakho etafileni!’. Iyadlalwa kuthotho lobusuku kunye nobusuku ngabunye, abantwana kusapho lwakho bathatha ikhadi elitsha kwisitaki kwaye bachithe isidlo besilungiselela. Kuxhomekeke kubudala kunye nenani labantwana abadlalayo, iiMannerIsms zibonelela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuvuza imikhuba emihle. Kwaye unokuqhubeka ngakumbi ukulungelelanisa umdlalo nosapho lwakho.
Kumdlalo, cinga ukuba abantwana bakho bayakhuthazwa ngumvuzo, zama ukuncamathelisa izitikha kumakhadi emikhwa afezekiswe ngempumelelo. Ukuba abantwana bakho bayaluthanda ukhuphiswano phakathi kwabo, unokuyila imbuyekezo, njengokufumana umntwana owayehlala esebenzisa indlela yasebusuku ukukhetha ikhadi kubusuku obulandelayo. Unokudlala ngokudibeneyo, ukuba nomntwana wakho (abantwana) bahlale bebukele isimilo sangokuhlwa kunye nokugcina amanqaku ephepheni.
Ukudlala kunciphisa ukukrokra
Umdlalo uthatha ukuphuma ekufundiseni indlela yokuziphatha etafileni. Isisikhumbuzo kubazali ukuba bajonge indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Abanye abantu basetyhini bayavuma ukuba bawuthengele umdlalo abayeni babo. Kuyonwabisa kakhulu kubantwana ukuba babambe abazali babo ngempazamo.
iqela lokuyila umdlalo lihlala lizama ukuyiphucula ngokwamkela iingcebiso ezinje ngokuba kukho ezinye iindlela abantu abangathanda ukuzibona zibandakanyiwe, okanye ukuba usapho lwakho luze nendlela entsha yokufumana amanqaku okanye yokulandelela inkqubela phambili yabantwana bakho.
I-MannerIsms yaphuhliswa ngabazali nabantwana, yabazali nabantwana. Ngexesha elizayo xa usetafileni yesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nosapho lwakho okanye abahlobo, unokucinga ngokuzama lo mdlalo umangalisayo, ufundisayo kunye nolonwabo.